Antopia ( MPwH)
is a dating site for people with herpes. A full-service
site with personal ads and pictures, chat rooms, message boards,
and lots of fun and caring
www.antopia.com provide a caring, sympathetic, and
nurturing environment for people with herpes to meet and interact
with others in a similar situation.
If you are new to Meet people with Herpes, or to Internet Dating, the
site may seem a little daunting. If that is the case, just read down
it will help get you going.
Antopia is a site where you can meet a lot of people in a safe and secure
way. The joy of the Internet is that it can be very discreet as well
as giving you quick and easy access to exactly the people you are looking
to get to know.
There is much to do on Antopia.com, as you can see by all the buttons
on the left! But do not worry. Just start in slow and learn one thing,
another thing, and soon you'll be bouncing around all areas of the
site taking part in the many activities here, and more importantly,
meeting other great Members just like yourself who want to meet and
interact with you!
Before you start, let us tell you that no amount of written advice
is going to take the place of clicking around, so be prepared to do
You'll soon find your way. Also, if you have any technical difficulties,
check the Technical Help BBS, as maybe someone else is having the same
problem and can advise you quicker than the staff can get back to you!
First, know that we have lots of Members, and on any given day over
3,000 of them log in to check out the site. Every Member has a Member
number - a little impersonal, we know, but that's where people start.
Further down this page you will learn how to get a Chat Name for yourself,
if you haven't already, and that's
how you will mostly be known to other members.
Each of the members has chosen a category which generally describes
what they are looking for on Antopia. We have several different categories
which we have developed over the years.
Although this is a dating
site, many of the Members are looking for friends also, and so there
are many people
here who might want to interact with you.
Your profile gives people some information about you, with the answers
to the questions we asked you. Here is what other Members get when
they click to see your information. If you do not have any text with
your ad, or a picture, you may want to consider adding these.
Many of the Members also choose a Chat Name, and we suggest that you
do. A "Chat Name" is a nickname that you use for Antopia.com
activities. As well as being used in the Chat Room, it is also featured
else that you go - on your ad, Bulletin Board messages, Psst! messages,
and so on. Everyone on Antopia has a different Chat Name.
Many more of the members also choose a Chat Icon. It's a cute little
picture that goes with your information. Again, it is used everywhere
on the site, not just in Chat. This is your Chat Icon.
Finding People on Antopia.com
There are several ways to get to know and meet people on Antopia.
Most people spend their time finding out about the other Members by
browsing the ads and profiles. It's the Search & Browse button
on the left, near the top. You can search for people in your area or
any other place by category, age, and various other criteria. You can
see only the ads and profiles that have pictures, and many people do
this (it's why it's a good idea to have a picture with your ad). If
you are upgraded, you can send a response to any other Member who you
find. This response is sent to their email address, and is also available
on the site here for 30 days in the Responses area.
Some people fill out the question part but do not post any text. So
their ads are less interesting, and they are featured at the bottom
of the lists. However, those Members are every bit as great as the
ones who HAVE written something, so we encourage people to review those
Once you have found some people of interest, you can add them to your
Buddy List so you can remember them for later. On Antopia, the other Member
does not know if they are on your Buddy list, so it's a confidential
way for you to keep track of people you are interested in as well as
HMatch(c) is the proprietary matching system that takes all your criteria
and processes them to find other members that you may be compatible
with. It can be uncannily accurate - it can also be very sensitive,
going from 100 matches to zero with the change of one parameter! So
you have to spend time and play with it. It involves changing the criteria
that you are looking for, as well as the criteria about yourself. Many
people have found that what was in their ad was actually quite restrictive
and that easing off a little in your requirements can open the door
to some great new people. So try it out.
Although you can actually choose to see Online Members using a variety
of criteria in the Search & Browse area, you can also see the entire
list of people who are online and want to be seen, in the Online Members
area. If you are upgraded you can send them a Psst! message. This is
a great way to start chatting with other members, so try it out.
Tagged Members are those who you have "tagged" by placing
them on your Buddy List, your Flirt List, or your Ignore List. On the
Tagged Members page you can keep track of all these other Members.
Learn to use these features as they work well and will stand you in
How to Contact Members
There are various ways to contact people whom you encounter on Antopia.
The traditional way is to send them a response from their ad. You must
be upgraded to do this. That response is emailed to them, and also
listed on the site in the Responses area.
Another way to contact someone is to send them a Psst message. This
works best if they are online - however, if you open the Psst! page
you can send a response to any Member, online or not. Initiating a
Psst! exchange is reserved for upgraded members. Any Member can respond
to a Psst! that they receive.
The Psst! Page
The Psst! Page gives a little more detail about Pssts. It also lets you open
the Psst Page and the Psst Alert Window, which hides in the background and alerts
you if you have a new Psst. You can also see if you have a new Psst every time
you click on an Antopia page, as there is an message which will show at the top
of the page.
Another way to contact someone is to Flirt with them. This is your
best bet if you are not upgraded. The other member will see a Flirt
Alert when they log in and will know that you are "flirting" with
them - they can decide whether to contact you or not.
You can also communicate with people via the Bulletin Boards and the
Chat Rooms. See the Antopia areas and features page for more information.
Antopia Areas and Features
As well as having ads and profiles, we have a lot of other areas and
things to do.
Small Talk is kind of a very slow, mini-chat room. You can check it
every now and then and leave a message. The conversations so far have
been fun and if you have never visited Antopia Chat, or Internet Chat
at all, then it's a good place to start to see what you're in for!
The Chat Rooms
The Chat Rooms are quite interesting. Internet Chat is a culture all
of its own. Antopia have several different rooms, although most members
at any given time are congregating in one or two. Currently, all members,
even ones who have not upgraded, can get into the New Members Chat
room. The Chat Rooms can be a little fast if you are not familiar with
them, but people are very friendly so give it a shot! The first time
into the Chat Room it will take a while to load, so be patient!
The Bulletin Boards
The Bulletin Boards are incredible - the "hidden secret" of
Antopia. The high quality and caliber of
the messages posted there is amazing. Upgraded members can see all
the boards, and if
upgraded you can see the latest posts on the Banter Board only. There
is a Support board there also, and also a board for planning local
activities for groups of Members.
Best of the Bulletin Boards
There is so much information on the Bulletin Boards that Antopia decided
to make a special page to feature some of the best conversations (or "threads" as
they are known in Internet jargon). the focus is on support and helpful
advice. The best of the BBS is a feature that was originated by one
of the Members, who also identified the particular threads that you
On the Tagged Members page you can keep track of all the people with
whom you are flirting, and whom you have placed on your Buddy List
and Ignore list. Learn to use these features as they work well and
will stand you in good stead!
The My Responses page lists all the recent responses between you and
other Members. Responses are kept for 30 days. All responses are also
emailed to the recipient.
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